How do I keep a beginner's mindset?

One of the best things we can do to drive progress and innovation is continue to operate from a beginner's mindset.

Yes, there's times when expertise and experience and deep wisdom have a role to play, but the ability to approach thing's from a beginner's mindset it a game changer.

Two things recently have really helped me engage in life from this pure perspective: yoga and spending time with kids.

I've been taking multiple yoga classes a week for almost 3 years now, and yet I still feel like a complete noob every time I hit the mat. Perhaps an outsider might be confused as to how, after hundreds of yoga class with some amazing teachers, I can still be humbled and feel like I know nothing. It's part of a discovery process where poses and positions only truly reveal themselves after so much practice and iteration.

A similar thing happens when I spend time with my niece and nephew and friends' kids expect its more of a re-discovery. As long as I can remember, kids have always loved me, and I think I can finally articulate why. I think it comes from the deep empathy that allows me to try to understand the world from their perspective and see the world through their eyes. I ask kids so many questions to help me remember what the universe looked liked when I was young.

I went for a long walk in the woods with my niece and nephew this past weekend by my parents house where I grew up. I've spent hundreds of hours in those woods as a kid and yet this weekend, we discovered things I've never seen before. It was quite an adventure. For all of us.

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When it comes to innovation, the best new ideas and breakthroughs are almost never coming from the people who think they know it all and have nothing left to learn. It's coming from the folks who, no matter how much they know, are still able to start with a blank sheet of paper and an unlimited repertoire of what's possible.

This ties back into my favorite question of "What if?" A beginner is always asking what if. What if I could do that arm balance or connect that binding on the yoga mat? What if I didn't assume I knew all of the secrets treasures of the woods I grew up in? What if we didn't do things the way they've always been done?

When it comes to truly innovative and game-changing products and solutions, the ever-curious mindset of the beginner is far superior to those who believe they already know all of the answers.

How do I come up with my theme for the year?

At the beginning of 2018, I gave up any form of resolutions and made the decision that picking a theme for the year felt more appropriate for me.

At that point, I decided that 2018 was going to be the Year of Ultimate Alignment.

This came from a belief that there was a lot of internal work for me to do that year. My intention was to re-calibrate my internal compass and strengthen my trust in my own discernment and decision making. I deepened my yoga and meditation practices. I participated in some other-worldly "team building" activities. I spent a lot of time in nature. And I did my best throughout the year to checkin with my own internal guidance system before taking action.

Then there was 2019. Last year was the Year of Surrender.

Whether I truly wanted Surrender to be my theme for the year or not is hard to say. But it was very clear that's what was happening, and I went with it. I surrendered to Surrender being my theme for the year. I left my leadership position in a company I previously believed was an organization and the people I would work with for the rest of my life. I went through a hellacious experience with the people renting my home which became very costly financially, mentally, spiritually and emotional. And ultimately, I spent a lot more time listening, saying no and letting go than I did of actually accomplishing anything. Weirdest year of my life. But it also left room for me to fall in love with an incredible woman in a situation that most people could never understand. In a sense, we both were fully surrendered to what was possible against the odds, and it's been a beautiful adventure ever since.

That brings us to 2020. The start of a new decade.

There's so much pressure to pick the perfect theme for this new year after how on point the last two were. Actually, I'm just messing around. There's no pressure at all.

I'm sitting here with no theme at the moment, and I'm perfectly okay with that.

The beauty of these themes and the reason why they are a year long journey is that they take time to learn, develop and fully integrate. Allowing these themes the proper time that they need breathe and grow feels like putting on a new piece of armor. They become part of my identity and who I am.

And so, even though I don't have a theme for this year on January 4th (gasp!), I fully trust that the theme will reveal itself soon.

Thanks to my Alignment armor I am certain that I will be able to find the exact right theme and say no to everything else. And thanks to my Surrender armor, I don't feel the need or pressure to force something to hit some arbitrary deadline or outcome.

I know that this year's theme will come from me listening deeply, being observant to what life is showing me and rejecting any good themes to leave space for the perfect one to walk into my life.

Why do I choose to make practice so difficult?

We're about to connect some really old threads that have been in my subconscious for decades. We're going down the rabbit hole on this one.

Why do I choose to practice in extreme conditions? Short answer: it's been programmed in me since childhood.

Childhood Practice Memory 1:

There's one season of the cartoon Dragon Ball Z, one of my favorite shows as a kid, where Goku has to travel far away and fight some aliens who are way more powerful than him. On his trip, he has a Gravity Machine that allows him to train in higher gravity levels than on earth. It breaks and goes up to 100x Earth's gravity. Goku goes from not being able to move to training in 100x gravity like he's walking on air which then allows him to put a whooping on the bad guys.

Childhood Practice Memory 2:

Over the holidays, we were teaching my 8 year old nephew how to bowl. I explained the way that my brother and I learned as kids. Our grandfather had taught us a certain step by step method and then made us repeat this process. Talk about training in a difficult environment. Our grandfather was a strict German man who not only owned the bowling alley but also was one of the best bowlers around, and he was watching our every move. I had to be younger than my nephew when we did this, and it stuck with me all these years.

Childhood Practice Memory 3:

I had just changed soccer teams. My old team won pretty much every game we played, won our league and won a few tournaments. My new team was not nearly as good. I was probably the best player on the team, and I wasn't all that great. At a practice midway through the season, my new teammates were goofing around, and my coach was laid back and laughing with the kids. I don't think our team had won a single game at that point, and I completely lost it. I yelled at my teammates, yelled at the coach, said some inappropriate words for a kid my age and then ran laps by myself for the rest of practice.

What do these 3 seemingly random memories about practice have in common?

These formed my own internal belief system about practice which only became apparent to me very recently.

Today, I choose to actively practice in situations way more difficult than anything I'll experience in real life, so that the real world operates in easy mode in comparison.

There's a few ways that this plays out for me. I never really made the connection as to why I did things this way until now, but it all makes sense from this new perspective.

In yoga, my favorite teacher is a woman in San Francisco who has the most notoriously difficult classes I've ever encountered. I didn't realize this when I showed up to her class the first time for what would be the third ever yoga class of my life. She warned us that it was going to be an advanced class and instead of rolling up my mat and leaving, I vowed to myself that I would not let this woman break me. Over 100 of her classes later, I have not given up in her class yet, and she has pushed me further than I ever could have imagined.

I do breathing exercises in the sauna and steam room with the extreme heat and humidity. I meditate in loud gyms and on the subway. I read books that are way above my comprehension level.

I don't get mad at myself when I struggle in these situations. It's practice. We're talking about practice. The opposite normally occurs. I'm grateful for failing in these situations, because I now know my current breaking point and have a new baseline to surpass next time.

It's important to keep in mind that this only applies to practice. Don't drink and drive so you're a better driver sober. Don't pick a fight with your boss or significant other just to improve your arguing skills. Common sense helps here people.

One of the keys to having a growth-focused mindset is to always be looking for opportunties to improve. An easy way to accomplish this is to see how you react when the switch gets ratcheted up 100x and you can't get up off the floor. It also shows incredible inner dialogue when you are in an unwinnable situation.

If we want to get exponentially better at the things that matter most to us, practice harder.